What is Happiness?
Many of us will say having a nice car, a decent job, getting married, graduating. Etc. Yes, these bring happiness – but temporary happiness.
The creation is always trying to compete with each other in various ways. Wealth, status, extravagant weddings, just to name a few. It causes us to worry, to enter sadness and in many cases, even depression. But for what? Something that is temporary.
Recently, it has become clear that many of us try to impress the creation, more than our creator. We’re all guilty of doing so. We often say “There is none worthy of worship except Allah ﷻ”, but we don’t live by this, not truly. It’s just a phrase our tongue utters.
By declaring this, we are claiming that nothing else is worthy of that central role, nothing but Allah ﷻ. But instead, we put our gifts before The Giver, we often make them the centre of
our lives. We revolve our lives around them. We depend on them. We take them for granted. Without The Giver, would we really have gifts?
If you pause to reflect, revolving our lives around these gifts is a result of attempting to find happiness, our focus isn’t on the akhirah, instead we’re trying to perfect our lives in this dunya. We attempt to find happiness everywhere, but we are never truly happy. Right? We may be happy for a day, maybe a week, but it never lasts.
Now you’re probably wondering, why? The answer is simple, materialism or the creation do not bring true happiness. We look for happiness in the wrong places, we try to look for happiness in a ‘perfect world’ but this world is not perfect, and it never will be. If this life was perfect, then Jannah would lose it’s value. The dunya will never be a true source of happiness, no matter how much we try.
Through this struggle, I’ve learnt and often advised – don’t put your happiness in the creation, it’s temporary. Don’t lose yourself chasing the dunya that you forget who blesses you, that you forget who you will return to, that you forget who is The Provider.
“Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.”
If you fill your heart with everything, but Allah ﷻ it will never find rest. We’ll keep searching and searching, searching for the impossible. Seeking peace, rest and happiness in the creation, in materialism. We often forget that we could own so much one day, yet the next, The Creator can take this all away. The same way He ﷻ can take away our health, our lives.
Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that you can’t own nice things, that you can’t love each other for the sake of Allah ﷻ. But, there’s a difference between owning these things, and depending on these things. Many of us become so reliant and attached to this Dunya we become terrified of loss, it mentally exhausts us. We lose focus, our true focus. Jannah.
“Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you”
Ali ibn Abi Talib (RA)
We should depend on He ﷻ only. All we have to do is let go and seek Allah ﷻ. He is always there.
“And your Lord says, “Call upon Me; I will respond to you.”
O Allah, remove from our hearts the love of everything not beloved to You. Remove the love of Dunya from our hearts, and fill it with remembrance of You.