Unity – What unity?
Two and a half years ago, I wasn’t Muslim but I felt the sisterhood, it was real and it was such an amazing feeling.
I’m currently on a coach back from Wales; a 3-4 hour journey of boredom, thinking and reminiscing.
You see, when I told people I wanted to become Muslim, I felt the force of sisters coming together for the sake of Islam. Everyone asking when the ‘big day’ was, so interested and supportive. I felt like I was gaining another family.
Two years ago, I finally took my shahada and became Muslim, alhamdulillah, and I yearned for that sisterhood during my hardest moments. I searched for it but it was nowhere to be found. Where did everyone go? Abandoned, alone and down. I had nowhere to go
Eventually, I thought I had found these sisters again. I was so happy, but after they had all of my kindness, drained all of my energy and taken advantage of my kind-nature, they left. Time after time, I tell myself I won’t get close to anyone else, but I do. And the cycle repeats itself.
My heart is torn, it’s been twisted and pulled into a mangled wreck. It’s limp with disappointment. At first, it’s like you’re gaining a new family with so much support.. And then the support disappears, friends disappear and often, family vanishes.
Sadly, this is a regularly occurrence and many people actually leave the very religion that once brought them so much sisterhood, so much joy and so much peace.
Why? The main cause – lack of support and false promises. Tough situations with no support from family, friends or the ummah, as a new Muslim, haven’t grasped patience and trust in The Most High and eventually, they’re broken beyond repair.
I cannot speak for the brothers, but there’s barely a sisterhood. The little around is refined to certain communities where reverts don’t ‘belong’ – Support? What support? We’re pushed pillar to post and left in the gutter to fend for ourselves.
As reverts, we don’t expect you to understand, no one can understand us better than ourselves and no one understands our situation better than Allah (ﷻ) but please, I beg you, don’t let your brother or sister slip away. Your simple support may be what helps a sister to survive, to yearn for the better and stay focussed
If you invite someone around for Iftar or Eid, or simply promise something, please try your utmost best to fulfil that promise or don’t say it at all. Broken promises hurt more than not being offered at all.
Just because someone reverts, or you help them become Muslim, the support shouldn’t just stop afterwards. Help them, I beg you. Don’t let another sister, another brother leave Islam. Please, aid them.
True …!
There is a vast diffrence between racial creed n personal conviction,
Born is muslims r bit of negligent …they didnt embrassed faith by choice or deep thinking …but a revert’s faith attain by pondering and reflections and continoius thinking …so thier faith is living faith burning faith ..they cant see anything wrong ..they cant even think beyond the limits of faith.
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JazakAllah khair for the reminders you share 🙂
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Thats our obligatory duty
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وليس الإيمان بالتمني، و لكن ما وقر في القلب و صدقه العمل.“
Faith is not by wishful thinking, it is what takes root in the heart and shows in one’s actions.
Sayyid Qutb
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I’m so sorry to hear that you didn’t get the support when you needed it the most 😦 I feel terrible! ;( If I was in their place, trust me, I would be by your side all the way! I myself have started studying Islam (I was born in a Muslim family but I never truly studied it till now) and I feel that illuminating feeling inside my heart day and night! I thank Allah that I have my mother by my side who plays the role of my mentor/support group 🙂 If she didn’t guide me I might have slipped away again ;( Don’t let that happen to you. You have us! Although I can’t do much from a computer screen, but I’ll be here for you and give you as much support as you want ❤
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Yehi Maqsood-E-Fitrat Hai, Yehi Ramz-E-Muslamani
Akhuwat Ki Jahangeeri, Mohabat Ki Farawani
This is the destiny of nature; this is the secret of Islam—
World‐wide brotherhood, an abundance of love!
Butan-E-Rang-O-Khoon Ko Torh Kar Millat Mein Gum Ho Ja
Na Toorani Rahe Baqi, Na Irani Na Afghani
Break the idols of colour and blood and become lost in the community.
Let neither Turanians, Iranians nor Afghan remain.
Miyan-E-Shakhsaran Sohbat-E-Murgh-E-Chaman Kab Talak!
Tere Bazu Mein Hai Parwaz-E-Shaheen-E-Kehsatani
How long will you keep company in the branches with the birds of the garden;
In your arms is the flight of the royal hawk of Quhistan.
Guman Abad-E-Hasti Mein Yaqeen Mard-E-Musalman Ka
Byaban Ki Shab-E-Tareek Mein Qindeel-E-Rahbani
In the abode of doubts of existence is the certainty of the Muslim hero;
In the darkness of the desert night is the candle of the monks.
*Allama Iqbal*
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